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Blessed with So Many Families

Published March 25, 2012 by sortitclickitdone

When I think about home, there are several definitions that come to mind.  “Home is where the heart is”, while cliché, may be the closest to the truth.  I recently went back to a job that I had for 5 ½ years but took a break after my mother-in-law died to help my husband who had sunk into the realization that he was part of the new “older” generation now.  Not having any biological children, he needed me to be his support through that dark tunnel of realization.  I entered the job I formerly held with nervousness and ambivalence.  I had heard from so many supportive colleagues about their excitement for my return which caused even more anxiety as the new people would surely be disappointed with what they were getting and would be confused as to why others were so happy about my return. 

 

But return I did and I was surprised at the level of comfort and security I had at returning to the familiar.  My journey over the course of the past 1 ½ years while I had been away had been a journey of self discovery, new opportunities, new friends but this was more like going back home.  Faces near and dear to me extending a welcome back.  Hugs from colleagues who have shared the most difficult of moments such as the deaths of colleagues with whom we shared a collective work experience.  While work environments are not often what we would hope them to be and oftentimes there is not time to know all of your colleagues as friends or even as humans, work is a place where we do spend time, get to know each other on a professional leve, share some moments that no one else would understand and grow with each other. 

 

I think about the families I have gained over the past 1 ½ years.  Strengthening my own family, getting to know my faith community better, adding a family of individuals who love to scrapbook and preserve memories.  It has been a ride.  Consistency is good.  I am back home and have so many wonderful family members to share it with.

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Distractions

Published March 10, 2012 by sortitclickitdone

I find that I am constantly distracted by those shouting squirrel at me (yes, just like the dog in Up).  Lately, I have been distracted by my 10 and 12 year old who want to start their own recycled bag business.  I don’t know where they got their business spirit from–hopefully they will be more successful than their dear old mom.  I have been distracted by the realities of retirement planning, college education planning, and an “aging” husband.  What am I distracted from?  Doing all of the activities that I like to do–knitting, scrapbooking, playing.

Distractions are good sometimes.  They help us reevaluate our priorities.  They help us strenghten our beliefs.  They help us push harder when we feel we cannot push anymore. 

What are your distractions from your passions?

Distractions

Published March 10, 2012 by sortitclickitdone

I find that I am constantly distracted by those shouting squirrel at me (yes, just like the dog in Up).  Lately, I have been distracted by my 10 and 12 year old who want to start their own recycled bag business.  I don’t know where they got their business spirit from–hopefully they will be more successful than their dear old mom.  I have been distracted by the realities of retirement planning, college education planning, and an “aging” husband.  What am I distracted from?  Doing all of the activities that I like to do–knitting, scrapbooking, playing.

Distractions are good sometimes.  They help us reevaluate our priorities.  They help us strenghten our beliefs.  They help us push harder when we feel we cannot push anymore. 

What are your distractions from your passions?

Don’t Cry Over Spilled Milk Day

Published February 12, 2012 by sortitclickitdone

I almost missed it, how about you?  I learned that my son shares a birthday today with Don’t Cry Over Spilled Milk Day.  I quickly scan through my day.  I stressed over not reaching my son on the phone to wish him a quick birthday.  I stressed over a financial aid application for my daughter.  I stressed over being late to a meeting.  Despite all of those things, the world did not end.  My family still loves me.  I did get to wish my son a Happy Birthday in person and on the phone.  I finished the application.

We often get worried over our strict expectations for ourselves.  We get stressed at what seems to be missed opportunities or irritations in life.  I look at the picture of my son pretending to pout and a big smile appears on my face.  I think about the subway art example that Creative Memories put out this week and an idea comes to mind.  Using Storybook Creator, I quickly put the picture into a template and adjust the opacity.  I then use the fonts on my computer to generate the words and put a glow around them.  I align the top and bottom making sure you can see the eyes and lips of my pouting child.  Come to Glitter Workshop on 2-12-12 from 1-3 to see how to make street art and more.

I don’t worry and I AM happy again.

Defining Moments and Missed Opportunities

Published January 23, 2012 by sortitclickitdone

How many defining moments and missed opportunities have you had in your lifetime?  Almost every decision we make could be a defining moment or a missed opportunity.  How do we keep the balance from questioning our decisions to going along peacefully with the tide of our lives?  Sometimes it is hard to make an important decision.  Do you ride it out?  Do you make the decision after careful thought? 

When I decided to leave my job in 2010, this was a defining moment.  Figuring out what to do next was the hard part.  As parents, we are torn between taking care of our kids and being available for them and putting them in the hands of others to take care of for us.  Obviously as a homeschool parent, I have been home for them most of their lives.  Working evenings full-time then 75% of the time was just a way to meet my goal and have it both ways. 

Since 2010, I have had the opportunity to explore what is important to me.  I first followed a friend’s advice to “say yes to every opportunity”.  Three volunteer jobs, a home business, and a part-time job later; my husband complained that I was busier now than I was when I was working nearly full time!  At the end of 2011, it was time to back up and evaluate.  After a faith community sermon on “saying no so that you can say yes” I was justified in letting go of some of my commitments so that I can focus on others.

What is important to me? 

  1.  Helping other preserve their stories primarily through photos.
  2. Helping others through major transitions in their lives.
  3. Ensuring my children enjoy learning and providing them an individualized education.

Ok, no small order there but a start.  I can look at any request of me and ask myself if it meets any of the goals above.  If not, I say no.  Of course, I left out my marriage and ensuring that stays healthy…is there room?  Ok, add goal number four, ensuring the family unit is happy, healthy, and loving.

Whew…now I am getting exhausted thinking of this.  I still have my part-time job, I still have my home business, I am still volunteering through my faith community though have dropped other volunteer commitments, I still homeschool my kids.

So I have it all planned out, right?  Well one kid said to me at the end of last year, just as I was figuring it all out, “maybe I would like to go to public high school”.  Another said to me, “maybe I would like to go to that private school nearby for a year”.  UGH!  Don’t you know I have just figured everything out?  Don’t you know how hard it was to get to this point?  Anxiety creeps back in, that unsettled feeling that things are about to change in a big way.

I love the fact that the older children are separating and becoming these wonderful adult-like creatures.  I love the fact that they want a peer group and not wanting to play with mom every second of the day.  But does this mean homeschooling is over?  Does this mean the 3rd child has to go to school too because his siblings have shaken the apple cart?  Does this mean I pursue a higher paying job to pay for all of this? 

2012 looks like it will be another year of sorting it all out again.  We roll with changes, evaluate options, make decisions.  It all works out in the end…